How to get closer with a partner?

Life is about connection! This post is for you if you ever wondered – how can I get closer with my partner…. or choosing to have a partner? How can I thrive in connection?

This post might look like it is about my need for having connection to the internet… but actually it’s a story that has a parallell to what may go on in our intimate life. 

Finally I found a solution to the terrible internet connection we got here on our camping site in South Sweden by investing in the antenna you see on this picture… But before coming to that conclusion I tried many different things.

First I upgraded my old phone to iPhone12 in the hope that this newer version would create a better connection. It didn’t work. Therefore I switched my phone service provider to a different one, in the wish that the transition would give me some better data traffic. As a result, my phone number got taken as hostage and for more than a month, people got a problem reaching me since they didn’t know my temporary number….

But even though I had a new operator and temporary number, there was still a problem with my internet connection. I couldn’t work via zoom as I usually do… it was very nice weather so I thought – why don’t just enjoy and being in the vacation mood like everybody else on this camping? 

But my life couldn’t continue being disconnected from the internet world. The solution was found to go to the nearby hotel and buy a drink and take my calls there… but it didn’t seem like a very sustainable solution… In particular not after I once again found myself being frozen in a zoom call. 

After recommendation, I bought this antenna…. Both Chris and I were happy since we thought now we have a solution to our problem of being disconnected from the worldwide webb. But then we got puzzled since we realized it needed a router and a SIM card. The question was – what router should we get? There is an abundance of choices… Chris was doing his research… Little did we know that the real solution was just 20 meters away in an abandoned tent. Abandoned since the man who lived there moved in with his girlfriend instead…. it was in his tent we found an abandoned router.

That router became the solution needed. We were happy! Chris put it up and realize – that this antenna doesn’t even need to go to the roof of the caravan, it works well in the tent! Happy I sent this picture to my son – just for saying – we now have found a solution. He came back with the question – why do you have it upside down? 

Hmmm… Chris did an investigation of this – Checked the data traffic upside down and the right way and to his own surprise, he found that my son was right. The speed that from the beginning was good, almost doubled. So we can say that our data connection went from good, to great. 

Now – what parallel does this story of lack of internet connection have to your intimate life? 

The answer is – how willing are you to search for finding a solution to your relationship problem? It’s so much easier to stay happy with what you got or leave, instead of being curious in how you can create a stronger bond and connection.

With our intimate relationships, it’s like we are happy with what we got… and for most people the quality of your sexlife is something we don’t talk about… In fact, the major reasons for divorce among couples can be related to problems with sex and/or money…. The exact two things I help my clients overcome. 

You see – how you handle one thing is how you handle everything? The way to get closer to your partner is to investigate how you can get more help. Most coaches out there work either with relationships or sex. I’m one of the few ones that cover both topics. Everything in your life is about relationships and that starts with the relationship you have with yourself and your own sexuality. It’s here you find your true power.

Interested in learning more? Then connect with me for a conversation.