Why is it so hard to continue to have love in your life?
You meet a person that is attractive to you. Immediately you feel this notion of infatuation. This must be your soulmate! Maybe it’s we forever? All these feelings are mutual and together you dive deep into the enjoyment of being in love. Learning about each other.
It’s just that as human beings very few have developed the capacity to be clear of what we truly want in a relationship. The relationship happens by default instead of being discussed of what it actually is and can represent in our lives.
Some people may even deny that they are in a relationship since the idea of transferring their identity from ”I” to a ”We” is something they are just not willing to do.I know how this is since I used to be exact that woman. Who in her love for independence didn’t want to indulge herself in a relationship where there was a risk that it could be a ”We”.
Today I see how this was an expression of my own unhealed wounds that blocked me from open up to bring love into my life. Since I was out of alignment with my feminine energy and desires I was clueless about why I even wanted to have a man in my life.
I mean after all… if you have the greatest relationship with yourself, why would you try to distract this relationship by bringing in someone else? And I think here is where a lot of single women and men are finding themselves.
The comfortable life of being single and alone, spending time with friends is safer than risking what we all deep inside fear most of all – to once again feel hurt in love. Since we unconsciously live in the idea that there is a ”happily long after” life that we can have together, it’s easy to take each other for granted – instead of treasuring each moment and appreciating the time we are together. It’s the difference between living in the future of the relationship versus living in the here and now. Both exist in us, but it’s very easy to be dragged into the idea of where the relationship is going.
Having an idea of the future of the relationship makes it feels safe and secure but is triggering to a partner that still has past wounds from a relationship. When we live in the here and now it’s focusing and being appreciative of each other and what we have at the moment. Here we have the capacity to be open in our heart and create the intimacy and connection we all deep inside yearn for.
The reason why the relationship doesn’t last is that one of the partners overthink the situation. Now take me right, I don’t say that you shouldn’t think about your relationship life – indeed to have clarity of you and your loved ones VALUES is a great starting point.
To know yourself and the values that are important to you and to make sure that your loved one is ALIGNED with these values, is truly important BEFORE you even CHOOSE to indulge in a relationship. Because it’s your choice.
The knowledge that it’s a CONSCIOUS CHOICE you made, keeps you out of disappointment. Now you can be responsible when there is a conflicting argument (instead of being reactive).
Your life is precious. Make sure you choose WISELY the person who DESERVES your attention and presence. Being in your power is the way to create greater success for your relationship life because now you will be clear on your BOUNDARIES.
If anything of this speaks to you and you know it’s time to get that relationship education once and for all that you never got from your home because your parents were not much of a role model… Join me to play with the masculine and feminine and discover what a conscious relationship is – how fulfilling and transforming love is – and step in to experience it in this intimate 3 hour online workshop.