Did Your Relationship Survive the Summer Vacation?

If it did—congratulations. You’re among the lucky ones.

Statistics from Statistics Sweden (SCB) show that October consistently has the highest divorce rate of the year. For the past 20 years, this autumn month has been the breaking point for many couples.

Who are these couples?
According to SCB, the “average” divorcing couple in Sweden are in their 40s, earn between 20–40,000 SEK per month, and have been together for about a decade.

So why October?
One explanation is the summer vacation. Spending more time together—often 24/7—can amplify tensions. If you’re not used to being around each other during the day, suddenly navigating shared routines, children, and expectations can feel overwhelming. What was meant to be relaxing can instead become a stress test for the relationship.

I find it fascinating—and somewhat ironic—that spending time with the person you love can actually feel dangerous. This runs counter to the very essence of Conscious Love.

When I wrote my book Conscious Love: Soulful and Intimate Connection, I interviewed couples who not only chose to live together, but also to work side by side. These are couples who enjoy each other’s company, not just tolerate it. For them, being together is a conscious choice rooted in presence, intimacy, and joy.

That said, even the most loving couples need breathing space. In my Relationship Model for Conscious Love, I talk about the importance of the Void—the ability to consciously create distance from your partner. This isn’t about disconnection, but about allowing longing and desire to resurface. Missing your partner is part of what keeps passion alive.

The challenge for many couples is knowledge. We were never taught what it truly takes to cultivate intimacy, passion, and connection in long-term relationships. When daily routines dominate, it’s all too easy to see your partner as boring—or as someone who isn’t giving you what you truly need.

The good news? Love can be learned.

If you want to discover how to create turn-on, intimacy, and joy in your relationship, I invite you to join the Living Conscious Love community.
Together, we explore what it takes to move from unconscious habits into the magic of a consciously chosen love.

With Conscious Love,
Maria